Why teach children social and emotional skills
What is Social-Emotional Learning
Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) refers to the process through which children (and not only children) develop the skills needed to understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, show empathy for others and understand social norms, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make responsible decisions.
Building resilience, empathy, and interpersonal skills are crucial for both academic success and personal well-being. SEL in early years education can help shape these skills. Both families and schools play their part. Parents and preschool teachers need to understand what these skills are, and what practical strategies to use to support children to learn and apply them..
The Importance of SEL in Early Years Education
Children begin to understand their emotions, form relationships with peers and adults, and develop a sense of self, from an early age. Emotional development during this period influences how children interact with their peers, solve problems, cope with challenges, and manage conflict. Children who are socially and emotionally competent are better equipped to manage stress, engage in positive peer relationships, and demonstrate higher levels of motivation in school.
Components of SEL
SEL is typically broken down into five core competencies (CASEL framework, USA), which provide the framework for nurturing social and emotional development in children:
Self-awareness: Understanding and recognizing one’s emotions and how they affect behavior. In Early Years children learn the names of basic emotions and how they make them feel; learn that it is all right to experience all kinds of emotions but not all behavior is acceptable. Children learn about their strengths and weakness, what they like and dislike.
Self-management: The ability to regulate emotions, thoughts, and behaviors effectively. Children learn what behavior is unacceptable and how they can use different strategies to get back into regulation when they have strong emotions; they learn to control impulses and wait for a turn, or wait for an award; they learn to set small goals and focus to achieve them.
- Social awareness: The capacity to empathize with others and understand social and cultural norms. Children learn to understand and accept differences in appearance, abilities and points of view; they learn social and cultural norms
- Relationship skills: The ability to form and maintain healthy relationships with others, including communication, cooperation, and conflict resolution. Children grow special relationship with other kids and adults, using good listening and communication skills, empathy, and cooperation.
- Responsible decision-making: Making constructive choices about personal and social behavior. Children learn to make healthy choices, keep safe, treat nature and the environment with care and respects. They learn to solve problems and resolve conflicts.
Strategies to Integrate SEL in the Classroom
Social emotional learning can happen throughout the whole life time but the first years in a child’s life are crucial for laying solid foundations. In preschool education, SEL is integrated into the daily routines and play, and special activities and interventions can support children to learn about, and practice all essential social emotional skills, attitudes and behavior.
Here are some strategies to effectively integrate SEL into the preschool classroom by embedding it into everyday practices, routines, and activities:
- Teachers model positive behavior: Educators serve as role models for social and emotional skills. By demonstrating empathy, active listening, and conflict resolution in their own interactions, teachers provide a living example of SEL in action.
- Books and storytelling: Stories are a powerful way to teach children about emotions, empathy, and problem-solving. Books that feature characters navigating emotions or social situations allow children to reflect on their own feelings and practice empathy.
- Circle time, including practices like Complements Circle: A daily or weekly practice where children sit in a circle and engage in open dialogue about their emotions and experiences. This time can be used for children to express how they are feeling, listen to others, and practice sharing and turn-taking.
- Role-play and dramatic play: Pretend play provides children with opportunities to act out different social scenarios. They practice social interactions, problem-solving, and emotional responses in a safe environment.
- Emotional regulation and mindfulness practices: Giving children tools to understand their emotional state and how they can calm down it when in distress helps them eventually begin to self-regulate. Simple mindfulness exercises, such as deep breathing, counting, guided relaxation, calm corners can help children become more self-aware and manage stress or anxiety. These practices teach children how to calm themselves when feeling overwhelmed.
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- Encouragement and positive reinforcement: Reinforce positive behavior and choices by acknowledging children’s efforts to regulate their emotions or demonstrate empathy. Positive reinforcement encourages children to continue practicing and applying their SEL skills and is more effective than negative comments or restriction.
- Conflict Resolution Tools: Teach children simple conflict resolution strategies, such as using “I” statements, taking deep breaths, or asking for help from an adult. These tools empower children to navigate social challenges independently and responsibly.
Conclusion
Early years education that prioritizes SEL ensures that children not only excel in their academic pursuits but also grow into well-rounded, compassionate individuals. The benefits of SEL extend far beyond the classroom, as children learn to approach life’s challenges with resilience, empathy, and a sense of responsibility.
SEL at ICCC
At ICCC we strive to become better at understanding and supporting children’s social and emotional development. Our team receives training and ongoing support in the Positive Discipline approach